Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 27, 2021

First Generation Pakistani-Americans Divorce Rate is the Third Lowest in the United States

Divorce rate among foreign-born Pakistani-Americans with children is the third lowest of all immigrants in the United States, according to research recently published by the US-based Institute of Family Studies. Foreign-born Indian-Americans' marriages tend to be the most stable, followed by those of Bangladeshis and Pakistanis living in America.  On the other end of the spectrum, the divorce rates among immigrants from Latin-America are the highest of all ethnic groups. 

 

Immigrants Marriage Stability. Source: IFS


Immigrants from Taiwan, Korea, China, and Japan, also have greater family stability than native-born Americans, as do immigrants from the Middle East and South America, according to the IFS report. Here’s the list of top 20 immigrant groups in the US leading in marriage stability: 


1. India - 94% 
2. Bangladesh - 90% 
3. Pakistan - 87% 
4. Taiwan - 86% 
5. Korea - 85% 
6. China - 84% 
7. Japan - 83% 
8. Poland - 80% 
9. Iran - 78% 
10. Canada - 78% 
11. Ukraine - 77% 
12. Vietnam - 77% 
13. Philippines - 76% 
14. United Kingdom - 74% 
15. Brazil - 73% 
16. Germany - 72% 
17. Venezuela - 72% 
18. Nigeria - 71% 
19. Russia - 68% 
20. Mexico - 68%

There are 326,709 foreign-born Pakistani immigrants of working age (18-64) in the United States, according to figures cited by the Institute of Family Studies. Of these, 87% have been married only once and are still married while 10% are on their second marriage, 2.4% are divorced while 0.6% never married. 

The Institute of Family Studies (IFS) is an advocacy group. The IFS mission is to "strengthen marriage and family life, and advance the well-being of children through research and public education".

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Monday, August 28, 2017

Forced Marriages in South Asia: Myth or Reality?

There are frequent accusations of forced marriages in India and Pakistan which are regularly reported in the mass media. These reports elicit a strong emotional response from the society at large. Many such cases end up in violence with families taking the law in their own hands. A few of these cases end up in courts with the judges deciding the fate of such marriages. Let's examine the reality of "forced marriages" in South Asia.

Interfaith Marriages:

Charges of forced marriages are usually leveled mostly against interfaith or inter-caste marriages, particularly when such unions occur without the agreement of the parents on one or both sides.

Accusations of forced marriages are rare for same-faith and same-caste marriages arranged by the parents on both sides, even when these marriages take place without the consent of the bride and the groom.

Kerala Couple Hadiya and Shafin Separated by Indian Supreme Court
Court Case in India:

A recent Kerala case involved a Muslim man Shafin Jahan and a Hindu woman Akhila Ashokan. The two met as fellow students studying medicine in Coimbatore, Tamil Nadu, and fell in love, according to a report in The Guardian newspaper.

Akhila Ashokan, who prefers to be known as Hadiya, converted to Islam from Hinduism after meeting Shafin, and they married in December 2016. Upon hearing of the union, her "livid father went to the Kerala high court demanding that Hadiya be returned to his custody", according to The Guardian.  Contrary to Hadiya's express wish to stay in her marriage to Shafin,  the court nullified the wedding and forcibly sent her back to her parents' home in Kottayam. When Shafin challenged it in the Indian Supreme Court, the nation's top court upheld the lower court's decision.

Court Case in Pakistan:

An interfaith marriage between Pakistani Hindu woman Anoshi and a Muslim man Bilawal Ali Bhutto was challenged in Islamabad High Court by the bride's father Anand Lal. Lal's lawyer contended that Anoshi had been kidnapped by Bilawal  who forcibly converted her to Islam and married her, according to the Daily Times newspaper.

Anoshi told the court that she converted to Islam by choice. She took the Muslim name Maria and insisted that no one forced her to change her religion. The court directed 40-minute meeting of Anoshi with her parents and her family took place in the office of the Justice Shaukat Siddiqui where he maintained that her decisions to convert to Islam and marry Bilawal was done of her own free will. The court then allowed Anoshi to go with Bilawal and ordered police protection for the couple.

Earlier in 2012, similar charges of forced marriages were dismissed when Faryal (Rinkle Kumari), Hafsa Bibi (Dr Lata) and Haleema Bibi (Asha Kumari) told Pakistan Supreme Court that they wanted to live with their husbands who they said they chose to marry of their free will.

Summary:

Young men and women in India and Pakistan who dare to defy traditions and go against the wishes of their parents to marry outside their faith, tribe or caste face the ire of their near and dear ones. The most common accusations leveled in such cases are those of "kidnapping" and "forced marriage". Such accusations then become fodder of the mainstream media where they are repeated ad infinitum without verification. Some of these cases end up in courts where the outcome depends on the judges own prejudices without regard to the right to freely choose marriage partners. The Indian Supreme Court's recent judgement forcing the separation of Hadiya and Shafin amply illustrates the injustice in such cases.

Here's a video of Pakistani Hindu activist and lawyer Kalpana Devi talking about how willing conversions of Hindu girls to Islam are often labeled as "forced conversions". She says there is media hype and distortions of facts relating to such conversions. It is important to understand the Hindu community’s patriarchal structures. It is not unusual for Hindu families to attempt to avoid social stigma by characterizing all conversions and marriages of their daughters as "forced".

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Saturday, March 22, 2008

All Marriages Are Made in Hell

The PPP, the PML(N), President Pervez Musharraf and Pakistanis have been witnesses to several political marriages of convenience in the last 20 years. Examples include Bhutto-Zardari marriage, Bhutto-Musharraf marriage and Zardari-Sharif marriage.


Mr. Asif Zardari has emerged as the most powerful person in Pakistani politics in the wake of Benazir Bhutto's assassination and the subsequent PPP victory in the recent elections. Mr. Zardari was heavily involved in the the government and politics of Pakistan during the PPP's last two terms as the ruling party. Some of the questions that often beg for answers revolve around Benazir's opinion of her marriage to Asif and how her perception of Asif evolved over time. While it is hard to get accurate answers to such questions, it is possible to guess based on the words and actions of Benazir during her 20 year marriage to Asif Zardari.

When Benazir was engaged to marry Asif back in 1987, she told the New York Times that she agreed to the marriage, negotiated by her mother and other relatives over the last year, as a matter of "religious obligation and family duty." She went on to say "I must confess that if it hadn't been for my own peculiar position, where I have to consider the political ramifications of every step I take, then perhaps this would not have been an arranged marriage, but, in the circumstances, it seemed the only course," she said.

During her two terms in office, Benazir's husband was widely believed to be involved in corrupt dealings on major contracts with foreign firms doing business in Pakistan.
In fact, he earned the nickname "Mr. Ten Percent" for the 10% commission he is alleged to have demanded and got on every significant deal. In 1998 when Mr. Nawaz Sharif was the prime minister, The New York Times reported as follows: "A decade after she led this impoverished nation from military rule to democracy, Benazir Bhutto is at the heart of a widening corruption inquiry that Pakistani investigators say has traced more than $100 million to foreign bank accounts and properties controlled by Ms. Bhutto's family."

The 1998 NY Times report further said "But they trace the pervasive role of her husband, Asif Ali Zardari, who turned his marriage to Ms. Bhutto into a source of virtually unchallengeable power."
"In 1995, a leading French military contractor, Dassault Aviation, agreed to pay Mr. Zardari and a Pakistani partner $200 million for a $4 billion jet fighter deal that fell apart only when Ms. Bhutto's Government was dismissed. In another deal, a leading Swiss company hired to curb customs fraud in Pakistan paid millions of dollars between 1994 and 1996 to offshore companies controlled by Mr. Zardari and Ms. Bhutto's widowed mother, Nusrat", according to the NY Times report.

Benazir was well aware of the damage Mr. Zardari had done to the PPP and her personal reputation and worked hard to keep her husband away from the political spotlight. In fact, she asked him to go to New York and stay there in an apartment away from the media to be neither seen nor heard.

Rita Payne of the BBC wrote as follows in a recent column published on BBC.com: Her ability to switch alliances for political advantage was in evidence after the 1999 coup, when Nawaz Sharif was sacked by Pervez Musharraf. Initially she welcomed the move but was back in the studio three months later to condemn President Musharraf’s performance. Is the honeymoon over, I asked her as we waited for the interview to begin. She responded with a rueful smile, “all marriages are made in Hell." Sadly, there wasn’t another opportunity to follow this up."

The political marriage of convenience between Benazir and Musharraf arranged by the United States leading up to the Bhutto/Zardari amnesty and Bhutto's return happened much later.
Everyone now knows how that marriage turned out. While Musharraf kept his end of the bargain, Benazir quickly turned on Musharraf for her political advantage. Unfortunately, she did not survive to see the success of her party and Zardari took effective control of the PPP. However, it seems that the key phrase from her lips "All marriages are made in Hell" may be an allusion to more than her problems with Musharraf at the time Ms. Bhutto made the statement.


While the history of such marriages does not give us much confidence in their potential success, only time will tell if the latest marriage of convenience between PPP and PML(N) will succeed.